And the teacher's answer was "To be peaceful for you, useful for them."
This has never been more true than in motherhood. I was in Thailand on retreat when I heard this, and it rang true then. Now, it seems there is really no other way.
So this morning, as soon as the nugget was asleep for his morning nap - instead of doing the dishes, answering emails, folding the laundry, straightening the living room, writing a to-do list, making phone calls or catching up on my blog reading, I sat. I sat on my pillow and observed a mind that was fighting every moment. I wanted to get up a hundred times. But I didn't. Instead, I decided to just breath and stay on the cushion. The point is to be where you are - and today I was able to sit and breathe.
And though it was only fifteen or so minutes, something about today was different. Something about me was different.
So, find your tools - do the things that create inner peace and calm for you.
Whoever and whatever your "them" are, they will thank you for it.